The 30-day sex challenge has been around for years, and most versions of it say the same vague thing: have sex every day, try a new position, light a candle. That is exactly why most couples quit around day nine.
This version is different. It's 30 real challenges from the NaughtyApp dare database, one per night, climbing from a 45-second kiss to edging, oral and a finish you'll both remember. Every one of them says who does what, with what, and for how long. No guessing, no "so... what do you want to do?"
The rules
- One challenge a night, in order. The escalation is the point - each week builds on the one before. No skipping ahead.
- A missed night doesn't break it. Just do that day tomorrow. The challenge ends when you've done all 30, not on a date.
- Both say yes. Read the night's challenge out loud together first. If one of you isn't into it, swap it for tomorrow's and come back to it later.
- A safe word. One word that stops everything, instantly, no questions.
What you'll need
Lube, a few ice cubes, a blindfold, a mirror, a vibrator or dildo, and a phone for the timer. That's the whole shopping list for 30 nights.
Week 1 · Warm up (days 1-7)
Short, teasing and mostly clothed. This week is about wanting it before you get it.
- Day 1 - The one-way kiss. One of you French kisses the other for 45 seconds. The other isn't allowed to kiss back - only receive.
- Day 2 - Hot, then cold. She uses only her breath to get him as turned on as possible, blowing on the head of his penis and alternating between warm breath and cold breath, for 90 seconds.
- Day 3 - Through her panties. She gets on all fours with her backside up. He licks her through her panties for 90 seconds. Nothing comes off.
- Day 4 - Soaked fabric. She licks the head of his penis through his underwear for two minutes, until the fabric is wet with her saliva.
- Day 5 - Never quite there. She lies on her back with her legs apart and holds herself open. He wets his index finger with saliva or lube and circles around her clitoris - but never touches it - until she begs him to. The moment she does, he stops.
- Day 6 - Eyes closed. One of you closes their eyes or puts on a blindfold. The other masturbates right next to their face for two minutes, making it obvious how turned on they are and talking dirty. If the one with eyes closed peeks, they lose their next turn.
- Day 7 - How well do you know me? One of you does to the other the thing you think they like most in bed. Then the other does the same for you. Whoever gets it right wins a bonus: one extra request of their choice.
Week 2 · Explore (days 8-14)
Hands, mouths and new angles. This week you learn exactly what works on each other.
- Day 8 - The glans only. She takes his penis in one hand and pulls the skin back so the head is fully exposed, holding it tight and still. She wets the head with saliva and, with her other hand, strokes only the head - short movements, never down the shaft - for two minutes.
- Day 9 - Her G-spot, her hands. She crouches down with her heels close to or touching the back of her thighs and slides her fingers inside herself, making a "come here" motion to reach her G-spot for two minutes. He sits in front of her, kissing her and caressing or sucking her breasts.
- Day 10 - In the mirror. She puts a mirror in front of the bed and sits down. He sits between her legs with his back against her breasts, and she masturbates him for two minutes while he watches everything she's doing in the mirror.
- Day 11 - On her lips. She lies on her back. He kneels next to her head and rubs his penis over her lips while she licks it, for 140 seconds - and he can touch himself at the same time.
- Day 12 - Ice and tongue. She lies on her back with her legs apart. He puts an ice cube into her anus and another one in his own mouth, then licks her vagina for 140 seconds.
- Day 13 - Pick my video. Each of you picks a porn video you think will get the other really turned on. Then, one at a time, you watch the video your partner chose while they masturbate you - until the video ends or you're about to come. Then swap.
- Day 14 - Stop before you come. One of you sits. The other sits behind them, wraps their legs around them, strokes their nipples gently, kisses their neck and nibbles their ears - while the one in front masturbates. They have to stop the moment they're about to come.
Week 3 · Dare (days 15-21)
Penetration comes in, and so does edging - getting right to the edge and stopping. Nobody finishes this week.
- Day 15 - Her mouth, his hand. He lies on his back. She gets on all fours and gives him a blowjob for two minutes, while he reaches his arm down to her vagina and rubs her clitoris in that position.
- Day 16 - Just the tip. She lies on her back. He climbs on top and slides only the head of his penis inside her - nothing more. She squeezes and massages it with vaginal contractions while he stays completely still, playing with her breasts, for two minutes.
- Day 17 - Three minutes, three places. She lies on her back with her legs spread. He goes down on her in three one-minute parts: first he licks her vulva, then he moves to her inner lips, then he licks around her clitoris in slow circles.
- Day 18 - Slow ride in the mirror. He lies on his back in front of a mirror. She climbs on, takes him inside her and moves her hips very, very slowly for three and a half minutes - while he watches the two of them in the mirror.
- Day 19 - Get him ready. She uses only her mouth and saliva to get him hard and wet. As soon as he's ready, she picks a position and he takes her until two and a half minutes are up - so the faster she gets him ready, the more time they have.
- Day 20 - Three stages, no finish. Part one: he pinches, strokes and rubs her nipples and kisses her very gently on the neck, ears and mouth until she's as turned on as she can be. Part two: he rubs her clitoris very slowly until she's almost there. Part three: he enters her, slowly at first and then faster, until she's about to come - and stops. She doesn't get to finish.
- Day 21 - Hold still. He lies on his back. She climbs on and takes him inside her, then stays completely still. He makes contractions with his penis so she can feel him, strokes her nipples and grips her backside. He stops whenever she starts getting close, and keeps going until she can't hold it any more.
Week 4 · Surrender (days 22-28)
Four weeks of build-up pay off. From day 24, someone comes every night.
- Day 22 - The reveal. She blindfolds him, then gets on all fours on the bed with her backside raised. She tells him he can take the blindfold off - and when he sees her waiting for him like that, she tells him she wants to feel his fingers inside her.
- Day 23 - Hands-free. He holds a vibrator completely still. She rubs her clitoris against it without using her hands. When she's about to come she has to stop and rest for about a minute, then start again. Three times.
- Day 24 - Feet to finish. She lies on her stomach. He massages her from her feet all the way up to her backside, then massages her buttocks until she can't take it anymore - and then rubs her clitoris until she comes. She has to stay in that position the whole time.
- Day 25 - Tongue and both hands. He sits. She takes the head of his penis into her mouth and circles it with her tongue, stroking him with one hand and holding his testicles with the other, until he comes.
- Day 26 - Spooning with ice. She lies on her side and he lies behind her, inside her, spooning. She reaches between her legs and rubs her clitoris with an ice cube - and every so often reaches a little further back to stroke his testicles - until she comes.
- Day 27 - As slow as possible. He lies on his back. She strokes him as slowly as she possibly can. Every time he's about to come she stops for 20 seconds and starts again. He's allowed to come - but she never speeds up. Barely moving, all the way.
- Day 28 - Slow, fast, flash. She sits with her legs apart. He rubs her clitoris in circles - slowly for about 10 seconds, then fast for about 10 seconds - alternating until she comes. Then he takes a picture of how wet she is, just for the two of you.
The finale (days 29-30)
Two nights, one each. Save the best for last.
- Day 29 - Barely moving. She lies on her back. He slides the dildo inside her and rubs her clitoris as slowly as he possibly can. Every time she's about to come he stops for 20 seconds and starts again. She's allowed to come - but he never speeds up. As slowly as he can, barely moving.
- Day 30 - The last drop. He stands. She kneels in front of him, gets her hands well lubricated and strokes him until he comes. When he's ready, she opens her mouth and makes sure she catches every drop - then swallows and gently sucks out whatever is left.
After day 30
Most couples finish the challenge with a clear list of favourites - and a few they never want to do again. Both lists are the point. If one type of challenge stood out, go deeper: the slow-burn edging guide, spicy truth or dare for couples and hot challenges, category by category.
FAQ
What is the 30-day sex challenge?
It's a commitment to do something sexual together every night for 30 nights. This version gives you a specific challenge for each night, escalating week by week, so you never have to decide what to do.
Do we have to have sex every day?
No. Plenty of nights are a 45-second kiss, a tease through fabric or a two-minute game. Penetration only comes in during week 3, and orgasms mostly in week 4.
What happens if we miss a day?
Nothing - you do that day's challenge the next night. The challenge ends when all 30 are done, however long that takes.
Can we swap a challenge we don't like?
Yes. Swap it with the next day's and come back to it later - or skip it entirely. Both of you have to want it for it to work.
Where do these challenges come from?
All 30 come from the NaughtyApp dare database, which has 4,500+ dares across more than a dozen categories and five intensity levels, with a built-in timer. Free on iOS and Android.
Finished all 30? Keep going
Thirty nights is a start. The NaughtyApp dare database behind this list has 4,500+ more - and the app picks tonight's challenge for you, so the hard part is never deciding what to do.
- A new challenge every night. The app draws it at random from the categories you both switched on.
- Five levels, in order. The same slow climb as this challenge, as fast or as slow as you want.
- A built-in timer for every timed dare, so no one has to watch the clock.
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