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Most sex toys are something one person uses. App-controlled toys are something a couple uses, and that is a completely different thing.

The moment the remote is in your partner's hand, the toy stops being a device and becomes a negotiation. They decide when it climbs. They decide when it stops. You find out what you look like when you are not the one in control. And because it runs over the internet rather than Bluetooth alone, the person holding the phone can be on the sofa next to you, in the next room, or in another country.

Below are 12 Lovense toys and 60 challenges from the NaughtyApp dare database - five per toy, the most complex ones we have. Each toy gets a short explanation of what it actually does and why it works for couples, followed by its five dares.

How to actually run these

For her

Lush 4 - the one that started it all

Lush 4 is a wearable egg: the bulb sits inside, the tail rests against the clitoris, and the whole thing is quiet enough to wear under clothes in public. It is the most famous app-controlled toy in the world for one reason - it turns any ordinary situation into a scene, because your partner can change what is happening to you while you are trying to hold a normal conversation.

  1. Read it again. She wears the Lush and reads something out loud to him - anything she can reach. He controls it via app for three minutes, and every time her voice breaks she has to start the sentence over. His flat tongue works her clitoris throughout, and he pulls away whenever he cuts it to zero.
  2. One piece at a time. She wears the Lush and undresses in front of him, one item at a time. He controls it for three minutes and raises the level each time a piece comes off. She has to keep her eyes on him. Two fingers rub her clitoris throughout, faster every time it steps up.
  3. Something ordinary. She wears the Lush and does something completely mundane in the room - folding clothes, tidying a shelf. He controls it for three minutes and raises it every time her hands stop moving. His mouth stays on her clitoris the whole time.
  4. Maximum, from behind. She gets on all fours with the Lush inside. He takes the vibration to maximum and pushes his tongue as deep into her anus as he can, then licks in slow circles until four minutes are up. She may rub her own clitoris to make it better.
  5. Then he tastes it. She puts the Lush in and lies with her head in his lap. He works her nipples with his fingers, squeezing and pinching lightly, while she masturbates herself with the Lush inside for three minutes. When the time is up, he takes the Lush out and licks it to taste her.

Ferri - the one nobody can see

Ferri is a magnetic panty vibrator: it clips onto the fabric and sits flush against the clitoris with nothing inserted and nothing visible. Purely external, genuinely silent, and designed to be worn out of the house. If the Lush is about what he can do to her in the bedroom, the Ferri is about what he can do to her at dinner.

  1. Watch the screen. She wears the Ferri and puts something on the television. He sits beside her and controls it for three minutes. She has to keep her eyes on the screen and tell him what happened when the timer ends. Two fingers work inside her the whole time, faster every time it steps up.
  2. Five poses. She stands with the Ferri on. He sits in a chair and controls it via app, having her hold five different poses and varying the intensity at each one. The last pose: she kneels between his legs. Three fingers stay curled inside her.
  3. Keep a straight face. She wears the Ferri and tries to move around the room normally. He fires random patterns via app and makes her keep a straight face - and every slip earns a harder pattern. Three minutes. He penetrates her slowly throughout, and stops the instant the pattern stops.
  4. A fantasy she has never told him. She wears the Ferri and lies back. He controls it for three minutes while she tells him out loud a fantasy she has never told him before, and he raises the level each time she gives a new detail. His mouth works her breasts throughout.
  5. From the other room. She goes to the bedroom with the Ferri on. He stays in the living room controlling it via app, telling her exactly what he is going to do to her when he finally walks in. Two fingers work inside her the whole time.

Nora - the one that rotates

Nora has two independent motors: a rotating head inside and a vibrating arm on the clitoris, each controlled separately in the app. That separation is the point - your partner can run one, both, or switch between them, and you cannot predict which is coming next.

  1. Five edges, no finish. She lies on her back with the Nora inside. He controls the vibration however he likes while his other hand massages her clitoris in slow circles. Every time she is about to come, everything stops. Five times, and she does not get to finish.
  2. Eyes on him. She lies back and opens her legs with the Nora rotating inside. He sits at her feet and controls it for three minutes while she holds herself open and keeps her eyes on him. His flat tongue works her clitoris throughout.
  3. Collar and leash. He collars her and seats the Nora inside. He holds the leash and commands the app, and every time she moans without permission he cuts it to zero and makes her apologise. Two minutes. Two fingers rub her clitoris throughout.
  4. Face down, held. She is on all fours with the Nora rotating inside. He controls it from behind her for three minutes and dares her to keep her face down and her backside raised for the entire dare. His mouth stays on her clitoris.
  5. Rotation or vibration. She lies back with the Nora inside. He swaps between rotation and vibration every twenty seconds, watching which one makes her louder and leaning into it, for two minutes.

Velvo - the one with a wrap-around arm

Velvo combines a rotating internal shaft with a flexible external arm that curves over the clitoris, so it hits both at once and can be driven independently. It is the most "hands-free while still being used on her" toy on this list, which makes it the best one for dares where she is supposed to hold a position and not move.

  1. Lift it on command. She stands facing him with the Velvo rotating inside and lifts her shirt on his command. He controls it for two minutes and decides each time how long she stays uncovered. His flat tongue works her clitoris throughout.
  2. Bent over the sofa. She bends over the back of the sofa with the Velvo rotating inside, everything on show. He controls it for two minutes and makes her hold the pose without covering herself once.
  3. Blindfolded, no rhythm. She is blindfolded with the Velvo rotating inside. He changes its pattern via app every twenty seconds for two minutes, so she never gets long enough to get used to any of them.
  4. Silence, or zero. He lays her down with the Velvo rotating inside and her wrists bound. He builds it in waves and orders her to stay silent - and every sound she makes drops it to zero. Three minutes.
  5. Tongue and arm. He inserts the Velvo in full rotation, then sits in front of her on the bed with her legs over his shoulders. He uses his tongue on her clitoris around the Velvo's shaft, and when she trembles he switches to the external clitoral arm. Alternate for three minutes.

For both of you

Domi 2 - the wand

Domi 2 is a full-power wand massager shrunk to the size of a hand and put on the app. It is external only, brutally strong, and works on anyone - clitoris, nipples, perineum, testicles. This is the toy to buy first if you only buy one, because it is the only one on this list that both of you can use on each other.

  1. Fifteen seconds off. He pins her wrists above her head with a tie and holds the Domi firmly on her clitoris at a building rhythm. Every time she says "almost", he pulls the Domi away for fifteen seconds. Repeat until she begs.
  2. Clit, nipples, neck, back. He turns the Domi on and uses it on her clitoris. When she is almost there, he switches to her nipples for twenty seconds. Then her neck for twenty seconds. Then back to her clitoris, and holds her on the brink.
  3. Her turn with it. She pins his wrists and works the Domi on his perineum entirely by her own rules, pulling it away the second he says he is close. He earns release later, not now. Three minutes, with her tongue on his glans throughout.
  4. Every filthy detail. She lies back. He works the Domi on her clitoris and makes her tell him in her own words exactly what she would let an admirer do to her, raising it with every filthy detail, for two minutes. Three fingers stay curled inside her.
  5. Trapped between you. She lies back with her legs on his shoulders. He goes deep and slow for three minutes with the Domi trapped against her clitoris between them, climbing a level every thirty seconds.

Gemini - the clamps

Gemini is a pair of app-controlled vibrating nipple clamps. The clamping pressure is adjustable and the vibration is separate, which makes them the sneakiest toy here: they work on their own, but they are much better as a second layer running in the background while something else is happening.

  1. Beg for the release. She is bound with the Gemini at maximum on her nipples. He builds the clamps via app and makes her beg for release, granting it only when he is satisfied, until she comes.
  2. Every hitch drops it. She lies back with the Gemini on her nipples. He climbs the clamps in waves, dropping them to zero each time her breath hitches, for three minutes.
  3. On camera. She records a topless clip with the Gemini buzzing on her nipples while he climbs the clamps via app and directs the shot, for three minutes.
  4. Everything stops. Her wrists are above her head with the Gemini clamped on. He works her clitoris with his mouth and takes the clamps higher every thirty seconds, stopping everything each time she gets close. Three minutes.
  5. Everywhere but there. She lies back with the Gemini clamped on. He trails his mouth down her body, stepping the Gemini up via app each time she arches, touching everywhere except her clitoris, for three minutes.

Hush 2 - the plug

Hush 2 is an app-controlled vibrating butt plug that comes in four sizes and works for either partner. It is the most versatile toy on this list precisely because it leaves everything else free: hands, mouth and everything at the front are all still available while it runs.

  1. Hold it in. She seats the Hush in him, then spends three minutes making him hold it in against everything she does: pushing his knees to his chest, making him stand, making him squat. If it slips out, she reseats it and the three minutes start again. An oiled hand works his penis throughout.
  2. What would you trade? She runs the Hush on him and edges him three times in three minutes. Before each stop, he has to say out loud what he would trade to be allowed to finish - and she turns it off the moment he finishes the sentence.
  3. Three phases of mouth. She wears the Hush with her wrists above her head. He goes down on her for three minutes in three phases: wide flat licks over her whole vulva, then tight circles on her clitoris, then two fingers curled inside with his mouth on her clitoris. The Hush climbs a level with each phase and never drops.
  4. Sixty, sixty, sixty. She wears the Hush with her wrists bound behind her back. He builds a live custom pattern in three phases of a minute each: sixty seconds of nothing but two-second taps, sixty of a slow unbroken climb, sixty of full maximum with no pauses at all. She may not be touched by hand at any point.
  5. Stop asking. He runs the Hush on her at a level she chooses out loud. Every time she asks him to lower it, he raises it instead; every time she asks for more, he turns it off. Three minutes of her learning to stop asking.

For him

Max 2 - the stroker

Max 2 is a male masturbator with two things happening at once: a vibrating sleeve and an air pump that changes the suction. Both are on the app, which means she sets the pace and he does not. For couples, that is the entire appeal - it is the closest thing to her being able to edge him without using her hands.

  1. Three parts, one minute each. He sits with the Max fitted. For three minutes in three parts, one minute each: she licks his shaft with the tip of her tongue without touching the head; then takes only the head in her mouth and runs her tongue around it; then takes him as deep as she can. The Max steps up a level at every change.
  2. Both at once. He lies on his back. She sits on his face for him to lick her while she strokes him with the Max in her hand, alternating slow and fast via the app. She pulls the Max off, licks his frenulum, massages his testicles, and stops whenever he approaches the brink. He is held there until the next dare.
  3. Nails and stalls. He lies back with the Max on. She kneels between his legs and builds the Max in slow waves, dragging her nails up his thighs and stalling each time he tenses, for two minutes. Her tongue drags over his testicles throughout.
  4. Ask permission. He kneels with his wrists bound and the Max on. She rules the pace and makes him beg for it. Only then does she raise the Max, and she holds it there until he comes.
  5. From the doorway. He lies back with the Max on. She steps out of sight and toys with the pace from the doorway, going dead the instant he reaches down, for two minutes.

Edge 2 - the prostate one

Edge 2 is an adjustable prostate massager with two separate motors - one on the prostate, one on the perineum - both app-controlled. The adjustable neck matters more than it sounds: it is the difference between a toy that sits in roughly the right place and one that sits exactly there. Hands-free, which is why it appears in so many dares where she is doing something else entirely.

  1. Five stops. He lies on his back and she slides the Edge slowly in. She controls the vibration however she likes while her other hand strokes him slowly and both motors run. Every time he is about to come, everything stops. Five times, and he does not get to finish.
  2. Thank her for every wave. He is on all fours, collared, with the Edge inside. She drives both motors and makes him thank her for every wave, granting release only on her command, until he comes.
  3. Legs held open. He is on his back with his knees up and the Edge inside. She sucks him for three minutes while both Edge motors climb every thirty seconds, and every time he tries to close his legs she holds them open and keeps going.
  4. Twenty, counted out loud. She slides the Edge in and drives both motors, takes him in her mouth for three minutes and goes all the way down to the root twenty times, counting each one out loud. The level rises after every fifth.
  5. Until he sweats. She inserts the Edge and raises the vibration until he sweats, then turns it off for fifteen seconds. Repeat for two minutes, keeping him on the brink.

Gush 2 - the hands-free glans massager

Gush 2 is a soft, flexible sleeve that grips the shaft and glans rather than stroking, and it is the most under-rated toy Lovense makes. It is small, quiet, and leaves his hands free - which makes it the right choice when the point of the dare is that he is not allowed to do anything about it.

  1. Spell it out. He wears the Gush. She ramps it while he spells out, step by step, the threesome the two of them have planned, until he comes.
  2. Three, then the fourth. He lies back with the Gush gripping him. She edges him three times with the Gush alone, then lets the last climb carry him all the way. A lubricated finger stays inside him.
  3. Pick one. He lies back with the Gush on. She ramps it while he picks, from her circle of friends, the one he would most want to watch her with, for two minutes.
  4. Thirty and thirty. She fits the Gush on and runs it for thirty seconds, then takes it off and takes him in her mouth for thirty seconds. She alternates like that for four minutes, raising the level at every swap. He may not touch himself.
  5. On his feet. He stands with the Gush gripping him. She kneels and controls it via app, speeding it up each time he moans, until he comes.

Solace / Solace Pro - the one that moves by itself

Solace / Solace Pro is a full automatic thrusting stroker: it does the movement itself, at a depth and speed set from the app, so he does not move at all. That is exactly why it is on this list. Nearly every good dare with it is built on the same premise - he is not allowed to move, and she controls how fast this happens to him.

  1. Fifteen seconds per twitch. He lies back with the Solace working him, hands at his sides. She varies the pace via app and forbids him to move, adding fifteen seconds to the dare every time he twitches. Three minutes.
  2. Dead still. He lies back with the Solace working him, completely still. She escalates the pace in steps and adds twenty seconds each time he moves, holding him in edging for three minutes.
  3. Match the screen. He has the Solace working him. She controls it and makes him watch a clip she picked, matching the pace to whatever is on screen, for three minutes.
  4. Twenty-second steps. He lies back with the Solace active. She controls it via app, varying the pace every twenty seconds, edging him before finally letting him come.
  5. Across a crowded room. He has the Solace working him. She runs the pace while telling him how she once watched him across a crowded room and wanted to share him, until he comes.

Diamo - the ring

Diamo is a vibrating cock ring, which makes it the only toy on this list designed to be worn during sex rather than instead of it. It keeps him harder for longer and the vibration reaches her clitoris on every stroke - and because it is on the app, either of you can be the one changing it mid-act.

  1. Ten and ten. He sits with the Diamo pulsing on him. She takes the head in her mouth and circles it with her tongue for ten seconds, then takes him as deep as she can for ten seconds, then back to the head. She alternates for two minutes, stepping the Diamo up every cycle.
  2. Ring still buzzing. He has the Diamo pulsing on him. She lies back and lets him take her, and when he is about to come he pulls out and finishes all over her, ring still going.
  3. Bound, ten and ten. His wrists are bound with the Diamo on. She alternates ten seconds on the head with ten seconds deep for three minutes, the ring climbing every cycle. A lubricated finger stays inside him.
  4. Three near misses. He lies back with the Diamo on. She controls it via app and gives him three near-orgasms before letting him come.
  5. Coffee. He wears the Diamo out for a sit at a café. She controls it while everyone around them sips their coffee, for two minutes.

Which one should you actually buy first?

If you are buying one toy for the two of you, buy the Domi 2. It is the only one on this list that works on either of you and needs nothing inserted, so nobody is left out and there is no learning curve.

If she is the one you are buying for, the Lush 4 is the default for a reason, and the Ferri is the one to get if the appeal is wearing it out of the house. If he is the one, start with the Max 2 for hands-free edging, or the Diamo if you want something that improves the sex you are already having rather than replacing it.

You can see the full range at the Lovense store.

FAQ

Do Lovense toys work long distance?

Yes. The app connects over the internet, not just Bluetooth, so your partner can control the toy from another city or another country with no distance limit. Every toy on this page supports it.

Which Lovense toy is best for couples?

The Domi 2 if you want one toy that works on both of you, the Lush 4 if you want the classic wearable, and the Diamo if you want something worn during sex rather than instead of it. The Hush 2 is the most versatile because it works for either partner and leaves everything else free.

Can you use these in public?

The Ferri and the Lush 4 are the two designed for it - both are quiet and stay hidden under clothes. Keep it discreet and legal: this is about the person wearing it knowing, not about anyone else noticing.

Do I need the app for the challenges above?

For most of them, yes - the dares are built around one partner controlling the toy remotely, which is the whole point. The Lovense app is free and handles the toy itself; NaughtyApp supplies the dares and the timer.

What lube should I use?

Water-based only. Silicone lube degrades silicone toys, and every toy on this list is silicone.

Where do these challenges come from?

All 60 come from the Lovense category in the NaughtyApp dare database, which has hundreds more across five intensity levels with a built-in timer. Free on iOS and Android.

Your toy is only as good as who is holding the phone

The hardest part of toy play is not the toy. It is the two of you sitting there with a working device and no idea what to actually do with it - and "just play around with it" is how a £100 purchase ends up in a drawer.

NaughtyApp is built for exactly this. It has a dedicated Lovense category with hundreds of dares written per toy - Lush, Ferri, Nora, Velvo, Domi, Gemini, Hush, Max, Edge, Gush, Solace and Diamo each have their own - so the dares you get are the ones your actual toy can do.

Pair the toy, hand over the phone, and stop deciding.

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